Inner vows override our ability to allow Jesus to direct out min, will, and emotions. They harden our hearts and add bricks to walls in our life for protection, which puts a barrier between God and us and us and others. Inner vows cause “auto-pilot” reactions such as flight or fight responses to painful situations. Here is a list of common inner vows we make. Circle what applies to you for the prayer at the end.

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Common Inner Vows List

Common Inner Vows Printable List

  • I will not trust ______ again.
  • I will not trust a ______.
  • I will not trust ______ with money.
  • I will not trust ______’s judgment.
  • I will not trust ______’s word.
  • I will not __ (do this) __ unless he/she __ (does this) __ first.
  • I will not trust an authority figure again.
  • I will not trust there will be enough
  • I will not be safe financially.
  • I will not trust anyone.
  • I will not let myself love ______ again.
  • I will not let anyone love me.
  • I will not love my step-children.
  • I will not love my in-laws.
  • I will not try to make ______ love me again.
  • I will not let myself love a job again.
  • I will not love my ______ again.
  • I will not love my spouse again.
  • I will not enjoy intimacy with my spouse.
  • I will not give in to my spouse without a struggle.
  • I will not cry again.
  • I will not let _____ see my emotions.
  • I will not allow myself to be vulnerable.
  • I will not let ______ hurt me again.
  • I will not let a man/woman control me.
  • I will not believe anyone again.
  • I will not forgive my ______.
  • I will not forgive him/her unless he/she apologizes to me first.
  • I will not have another friend like ______.
  • I will not put myself at risk by ______.
  • I will not be beautiful/handsome again.
  • I will not be attractive again.
  • I will not talk to ______ again.
  • I will not eat _____ again.
  • I will not talk about my past again.
  • I will not try to please people; it can’t be done.
  • I will not sing in public again.
  • I will not dance in public again.
  • I will prove they were wrong about me.
  • I will prove to people that Jesus did call me.
  • I will prove that I am not worthless.
  • I will not care about _____ again.
  • I will not claim my step-kids as my own.
  • I will not ask anyone for help again.
  • I will not let other people’s anger affect me.
  • I will not allow myself to feel pain again.
  • I will not allow myself to feel sorrow.
  • I will not allow myself to receive other people’s evil/negative words.
  • I will not own a ______.
  • I will not let my mother cook.
  • I will not let things be disorganized.
  • I will not be weak.
  • I will not allow myself to need.
  • I will not let them take anything from me.
  • I will not allow anyone to touch me.
  • I will not share what is mine.
  • I will not allow anyone to give me money.
  • I will not fight back again.
  • I will not give birth to a boy child.
  • I will not try ______ again.
  • I will not be rejected again. I will always:
  • I will discipline my life.
  • I will be in control of my life.
  • I will protect my heart from pain.
  • I will protect my heart from sorrow.
  • I will remain aloof, separate.
  • I will be logical.
  • I will be in charge…I will always win.
  • I will be better than everyone else.
  • I will trust my opinion over others.
  • I will prove that I am not worthless.
  • I will make ______ proud of me.
  • I will take care of myself first.
  • I will have the best of everything.
  • I will hurt others more than they hurt me.
  • I will make ______ proud of me someday.
  • I am a loser.
  • I am less than others.
  • I will have more problems than others.
  • I am ugly. o I will always be overweight.
  • I am unattractive.
  • I am clumsy.
  • I am accident-prone.
  • I am dumb.
  • I cannot be a good reader.
  • I cannot be a good speaker.
  • I will always be a day late and a dollar short.
  • I will always have money troubles.
  • I will always be unemployed.
  • I will always be different and an outcast

Common Inner Vows in Marriage

  • I will not get a divorce, but as of this moment, this marriage is over!
  • I will not trust my spouse again.
  • I will not let my spouse control our relationship.
  • I will not allow myself to be vulnerable.
  • I will not let my spouse hurt me again. (hard heart)
  • I will not agree with my spouse on anything. (arguing, quarreling)
  • I will not cooperate with my spouse on anything. (contention)
  • I will not love or be nice to, my spouse again.
  • I will not give affection to, or receive affection from my spouse again.
  • I will not want to touch or be touched by my spouse again.
  • I will not let my spouse get away with offending me again.
  • I hate my spouse, but I will be civil to him/her in public. o
  • I will try to make my spouse suffer as much as I do.
  • I will do the minimum necessary to keep this marriage going.

Subtle Inner Vows

  • I will never trust ______.
  • I will not trust _______.
  • I can’t trust _________.
  • I shouldn’t trust _____.
  • I wish I had not trusted ______.
  • I don’t want to trust ____.
  • I don’t think I can trust ____ again.
  • I’m not going to trust ____.
  • I’d have to be crazy to trust ____.

This list is just the common vows. We make so many more that aren’t listed here. As the Lord to search your heart and reveal any other inner vows you have made and add them to the list to confess and release.

Inner Vows Prayer

Instructions: Make sure you do this ALL OUT LOUD! Think of it as giving testimony in a court case. Testimony is always given out loud.

The enemy is a legalist who has brought charges against you. He’s the prosecutor. Jesus is your attorney and the Father is the Judge. By confessing this out loud, you are taking back the ground he stole and grabbing hold of what is already yours because of the death and resurrection of Jesus.

Now, let’s get started!

Heavenly Father, because of the people who have hurt me during my life, I have believed lies, made inner vows and judgments that I foolishly believed would protect me from further harm. I have depended upon the power of my own will to insulate me from what others would do to me. The hardening of my heart caused by these Inner Vows has affected my mind, will, emotions, and body. I now see that this has caused many further problems by alienating me from the people around me. This has only led to more fear, distrust, suspicion, and hurt in my life. Father, here are the vows and judgment I have made and the lies I have believed that You have brought to mind:

(Confess aloud all Inner Vows) (When Finished, Continue prayer)

In the Name of Jesus Christ, I break each and every one of these inner vows, judgments, and lies and the curses they have placed on my life. I declare their power over my life to be null and void. Father, I realize that by making these Inner Vows, I placed my trust in them, rather than in Your power, mercy, and love. By trusting in myself instead of in You, I have created roadblocks to receiving the healing of my inner hurts and wounds that I so desperately desire. Father, I have sinned by not trusting You, and I repent of my sin right now, in the Name of Jesus Christ, my Lord. It is not by my Inner Vows, but by His stripes that I am healed.

I thank you, Father, for forgiving me of the sin of having placed my trust in something other than You. I ask that You heal my inner hurts and wounds, and remove all traces of these Inner Vows from my spirit so that they will never again affect me, or the people around me. Help me quickly renew my mind so that I will not fall back into any of the old, destructive patterns of thought and behavior that were brought about by the Inner Vows I have now repented of and broken. I ask that You release healing and restoration into the relationships that I unwittingly have helped to destroy, through the forces set in motion by my old Inner Vows.

Father, give me the freedom from the past that will allow me, with Your guidance, to reconstruct every relationship that must be renewed. If any repentance is necessary on my part, please show me the timing and the extent to which You would have me repent. I lay my mind, will, emotions, and body at the foot of the Cross and await Your direction. In Jesus’ Name, I pray. Amen.