In the spirit of Independence Day, be a God-dependent woman.
This morning I did a Facebook live video about what God has been speaking to my heart about the strong, independent woman mindset we boast about, and that I have perpetuated in my own life for a good majority of it. I mainly address the women of God because this seems to be a motto or decree of the modern woman, and we wear it like a badge of honor. I get it. I wore this badge for most of my life, but only because I didn’t understand what I was speaking over myself and others.
I don’t deny that, as women, we still have ceilings to breakthrough in religion, the marketplace, and in many areas of society. However, I wonder if we (Christian women) are making an idol of this spirit of independence in such a way that it has become more of a stronghold.
Here’s what I mean…
As followers of Jesus, are we really to have an independent spirit? And, is it something to be proud of as women and men of Christ? At first, you might think, “sure, what’s the problem here? So, let’s define the word “independent.”
The dictionary online defines “independent” this way:
- Free from outside control, not depending on another’s authority
- Not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence.
- Capable of thinking or acting for oneself.
- Not influenced or affected by others.
- Not connected with another or with each other; separate.
- Not depending on something else for strength or effectiveness; freestanding.
Synonyms of Independent
Does this sound like the life of a sold-out woman for Christ? Is this even Biblical?
I don’t know about you, but I see a lot of “Me, myself, and I” in those definitions and synonyms. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says, ”
Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.”
You are Not Your Own
If you and I are in Christ Jesus and have accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior, then our life doesn’t belong to us anymore. It now belongs to Jesus. We need to be independent OF the world, which implies a DEPENDENCE on God. Do you trust Him to take the wheel?
But, Erica, Women NEED to be independent in this world.” Yes, we need to be free to pursue the callings and anointings God placed on our lives. No one in this world has the right to enslave or oppress us. But, the independent spirit I’m talking about even applies that to the Father.
I can almost hear the rebuttal…”I’m not saying I’m independent of God?” Well, let’s examine a few things. I didn’t think I was either. Here are just a few clues to get us started:
- I’m pursuing my dreams.
- Here’s my plan for my life.
- I’m a strong, independent woman. I can do things myself.
- It’s my body, my choice.
- I will make my own way.
- I don’t need anyone’s help.
- I’ll decide what’s right for me.
Notice anything in common in these statements? They all say, “I, me, mine, or my.” I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve said these very things in my life, and more! It’s God’s dreams for us, His plans, His help that we should pursue.
The Independent Spirit
The independent spirit relies on the “self” instead of God. We become the idols and god of our own lives.
We Sow What We Speak
I asked the Holy Spirit for a better word for Christian women because I know what most ladies mean when they say it. But, I’ve always been a firm believer in “words matter.” I’d rather speak life over myself than to partner with the other side and speak death.
God didn’t intend for us to autonomous in the sense that we listened only to ourselves. He says, “iron sharpens iron.” His intent is for us to be in a healthy community with other believers so we can help and advise one another, not self govern.
The governor of our lives is the Holy Spirit, along with the help of wise counsel in the Christian community. And thank God for that! I don’t know about you, but the Lord’s plans have always been better than anything I could have ever imagined for myself. And I’m eternally grateful for God’s Word and other believers who have helped to sharpen me in this life. When I relied on my own wisdom, I found myself in a heap of trouble. Nothing is better than Holy Spirit wisdom and the Word of God.
I am a God Dependent Woman
What we speak over ourselves and others have more power than we give them credit. So now I say
I am a God-dependent woman. It’s much more accurate because I gave Him my life, and I’m not taking it back.
Thank you for reading my post. I encourage you to watch the Facebook Live video as well. I spoke about some things that I didn’t address here.